With the mistaken view of God as a Punisher-in-Chief that most Christians seem to hold, we think our own violence is necessary and even good.
But there is no such thing as redemptive violence. Violence doesn’t save; it only destroys all parties in both the short and long term.
Jesus replaced the myth of redemptive violence with the truth of redemptive suffering. He showed us on the cross how to hold the pain and let it transform us.