Shame dies when stories are told in safe places.
03832 – Shame Dies when…
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03803 – Mirroring and Magnifying Each Other’s Light
The longer I live, the more deeply I learn that love--whether we call it friendship or family or romance--is the work of mirroring and magnifying each other's light. Gentle work. Steadfast work. Lifesaving work in those moments when life and shame and sorrow occlude...
03787 – Rick Warren Apology
My biggest regret in 53 years of ministry is that I didn’t do my own personal exegesis sooner on the 4 passages used to restrict women. Shame on me. I wasted those 4 yrs of Greek in college & seminary. When I finally did my proper “due diligence”, laying aside 50...
03492 – Becoming Wounded Healers
Nobody escapes being wounded. We are all wounded people, whether physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. The main question is not "How can we hide our wounds?" so we don't have to be embarrassed, but "How can we put our woundedness in the service of...
03460 – Eliminating Shame
If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.
03317 – Love Your Neighbor
Part of the greatest commandment Christ gave to his disciples is to "love your neighbor." Not control your neighbor.Not mock your neighbor.Not shame your neighbor.Not dehumanize your neighbor.Not defeat your neighbor. Love your neighbor.
03297 – Realities of Mental Illness
We must normalize the awareness of the realities of mental illness, especially within the church. We must remove the negative stigmas surrounding therapy and counseling. One of the most common and most hurtful phrases I heard in my journey with mental illness was...
03144 – Love’s Many Attributes
Love has many attributes, but not a single one of them is shame, condemnation, coercion, or control.
03119 – Shame and Struggle
What we don't need in the midst of struggle is shame for being human.
03074 – Concealing Our Wounds
In a futile attempt to erase our past, we deprive our community of our healing gift. If we conceal our wounds out of fear and shame, our inner darkness can neither be illuminated nor become a light for others.